Comments on: “Muslims Talking Sex” Series: Porn, Is It Really that Bad? By Dr. X

By: Bette Tessendorf

Bette Tessendorf — Wed, 03 Mar 2010 07:24:56 +0000

Fantastic post, thanks a lot!

By: Jocelyn

Jocelyn — Mon, 22 Feb 2010 05:18:07 +0000

I’m divorced because of porn as well. He ruined our marriage and almost lost his job because of it. So no, I don’t think it’s a good idea. It teaches men to see woman as mere objects to use for sex. Is that the kind of husband you want to be, Dr. X?

By: A dot

A dot — Sat, 13 Feb 2010 01:19:17 +0000

Pornography is not about sex, it is about power. It is about one party dominating the other. Pornography does not celebrate sex, rather it demeans it, it reduces it to its most animal aspect, and is a guaranteed, life long way to mess up your interactions with the opposite sex.
While this is a very relevant topic, I find this article immature and confusing.
Here is only a couple of reasons why:
1) Helen of Troy is a figure from mythology and there is no real historical evidence that proves she ever existed.
2) You state that pornography is very clearly haraam, then reiterate the question: Is pornography really that bad? I mean, why do Muslims insist on writing circular things like this which just throw even the fundamentals into question?

By: CR

CR — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:40:16 +0000

I think that although this article is very honest about Muslim men’s sexual urges, it also attempts to rationalize pornography. Pornography is very, very dangerous for societies and marriages. My husband and I got married very young. With no jobs and no source of income, and very little financial help from our parents, our primary motivation to get married was quite obvious; we loved each other and wanted to be together physically. We both could have turned to alternative means to satisfy ourselves sexually, but we opted to get married and struggle through the rest of what life brings you when you’re broke and in love. Being in a marriage means turning on the adult – and not seeking easy/selfish solutions. I wonder what types of standards Dr. X has for women – speaking from my experience and the experience of my friends in similar situations, it is not that hard to get married once you understand 1) that there is no such thing as a perfect partner so just look for someone sincere 2) any marriage can work if both parties are mature and leave selfishness at the door and 3) marriage is hard work, but it is worth it to avoid haram.

By: Dr. R

Dr. R — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 06:56:22 +0000

This guy needs to get married first and then he will be able to answer his question himself as to whether porn is really so bad or not.